It has been a while, my friends. I haven't written for quite some time due to several life changing events all 20 Somethings inevitably experience: the break up with the guy you thought you would marry, moving to a new city to 'start fresh' (this was actually my 3rd 20 Something 'start fresh' move), rebounding hard, mild depression and dramatic weight loss (yay!).
My ex-boyfriend (we'll call him D) had a lot of red flags right from the start. Despite being 5 years older than me, he had no advanced education and a just above minimum wage job. He had a daughter by another woman who would ultimately become the bane of my existence. He broke out in a sweat at the mention of attending a family function with me. Nothing was ever his fault. Just a few months after we started dating he asked to move in with me 'temporarily' while he looked for a new apartment and then didn't move out for 3.5 years. Despite all of this, I loved him very much. Despite his red flags, he was a great guy and for several years I believed we would eventually marry.
While I was the one who ultimately pulled the plug on this relationship, it didn't mean I was happy about it. It didn't help that we broke up March 1st and he didn't move out until April 15th. For a month an a half I was trapped in a 3 room apartment with my ex, 46 days of guilt and sadness. When he finally moved out, I enjoyed having 'my' apartment to myself again for about 25 seconds. We had shared that apartment for 3.5 years and I saw him in every nook and cranny. It was time to move.
I moved 45 minutes up the parkway to a small city close to my job. It wasn't until I settled in that I realized I didn't know anyone here. Or where anything was. I hadn't thought about any of this before I moved because I was rebounding with the hottest guy I had ever been with. Ever. He was so insanely hot that I ignored the fact that he was a Stage 5 Clinger and wanted to marry me and have lots of babies. Well, I ignored it until I really couldn't anymore (right around the time I moved and he was talking about moving in too) and had to cut him loose.
Ok, so now I had broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years, broken up with the hottest guy ever who wanted nothing more than to be with me 24/7, and moved to a new place where I didn't know anyone or have any friends. It was a very low time for me. During this time I was susceptible to spontaneous eye leakage without the slightest provocation and spent all of my free time in bed.
This lasted for about a month. Slowly but surely I began to venture out of the rabbit hole and these days I feel mostly ok again, definitely more like myself than I have since I can remember. Over the past year I shed almost 60 pounds so it is helpful to know I am 'starting fresh' as my most fabulous looking self. I am dating, I am spending more time with girlfriends and, most importantly, I am ready to write again.
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